A couple of weeks ago my husband and I sat down to talk about our new life as parents of 2 children and our game plan for this new adventure. We have no family in LA (they’re back in our home country), so we decided I was going to have a new job 🙂 I was going to be a stay home mom, at least for a few months. It has been quite a ride! This is a 24/7 gig!
Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids, I would do anything for them. But there’s also a part of me that wants to be the girl that used to dress pretty, wear makeup and go to work. At least once in a while. I cannot remember the last time I stopped working. My hubby and I have always worked very hard in this country, so I’m still having a hard time trying to adjust to my new normal.
Being a stay at home mom has more pros than cons, I mean, who doesn’t want to raise their children and be able to dedicate all the time in the world to them? after all, the first 5 years are the most important ones for any human being. However, the biggest con I’ve experienced is EXHAUSTION!
So how does one deal with this? I’m still in the process of learning and finding out what works best for my kids and I so here are some things i have implemented in our daily rutine that have helped!
- WAKE UP BEFORE THE KIDS.
I know, I know you haven’t sleep all night and you have to wake up early? Trust me, this one is super hard for me. But like my husband says we can do things together around the house before he goes to work, and that gives us time as a couple too.
I always try to find at least 5 minutes before my day starts to sit down and meditate on God’s word, read a bible verse and pray. And remember, always be thankful! We are so blessed! We’re moms!
- DO A “TALKING SESSION”.
This kind of goes hand in hand with meditating. I usually do my mini talking session in front of the mirror and say to myself how blessed I am, that I’m the best mom for my kids, that i’m beautiful, I am loved! Trust me, this will make a big difference in your day!
- GET IN A RUTINE.
Mornings are usually difficult, so you can make things smoother by prepping the night before, make the diaper bag and lunch boxes and put them by the door, so that next day you’re just ready to go.
- EXCERCISE WITH THE KIDS.
Save some money and cancel your gym membership, cause you’re not going anywhere anytime soon. (Trust me, it happened to me). Instead, you can go to the park, play music and dance with your kids, Go for a walk. Keep moving! It will keep all of you guys healthy and maybe they’ll take a 5 hour nap after working out with mommy.(Fingers crossed lol).
- USE YOUR CROCKPOT.
Seriously, this is like the best thing ever! You can slow cook overnight, and Pinterest has a ton of recipes ! A true life saver!
- MAKE A SCHEDULE FOR CLEANING.
My hubby and I try to wake up super early so we can do chores together. Team up! Dedicate 30 to 45 minutes to an area in your house. For example: “Today we did the bathrooms, tomorrow we will do the living room”.
- DO ONLINE SHOPPING!
Ok, so yes I’m addicted to Amazon Prime but!!! This is really an amazing tool for stay at home moms, I mean you can shop while your in your pj’s and breastfeeding. Plus, you can also do your grocery shopping online, you can keep a track of the items on your cart and spending, and it helps you avoid going to the store hungry and buying everything in sight. Lol.
- CREATE A “TO DO LIST”.
I always keep a to do list either on my phone or planner. That way I’m on top of everything and I don’t forget any details. We all know that mommy brain is something real! No, seriously!
- CLEAN AS YOU GO.
No time to clean? Multitask!! If you’re going to take a shower take your green products and clean the tub while showering, that way you’ll have a clean tub and clean hair!
- IT’S OK TO SAY NO.
No, you don’t need to go to every play date or social event, specially if you’re in the process of adjusting being a new mom or a mom of multiple kids. Don’t feel guilty about it, pace yourself.
- REST WHILE THE KIDS ARE NAPPING.
Even if it’s just for a few minutes! To me it’s really hard to get my toddler and baby to nap at the same time, oh but when they do, I do my victory dance and then lay down for a few minutes! It really helps!
- ASK FOR HELP!
It’s good to have a good support system to rely on when you get overwhelmed or too tired. My hubby helps me a lot and often offers to take care of the kids for a full day, so I can take care of myself, cut my hair, do a massage or just sleep and recover. Some of my close girlfriends also offer once in a while to come home and help me with the kids or the house stuff, I’m truly blessed with my support system.
- HAVE A DAY OFF.
Home me all day? The only conversation you have is with yourself? Have a day off once in a while! Talk to your husband or partner about having a space in your family budget to pay a nanny for a few hours so you can rest!! And NO! Don’t feel guilty about it, you work hard all day everyday.
Having kids is such a wonderful blessing. All exhaustion disappears when you see those chubby cheeks, and that smile! It makes it all worth it! So, don’t feel discouraged! Keep up the good work, you’re doing awesome mommy!